I Skipped the Oscars and Patricia Arquette was WRONG.

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(I should state that these opinions are my own. They are not a reflection of anyone that I know who works in Hollywood. Wouldn’t want any of you to get flack for my opinions.)

oscars2015I didn’t watch the Oscars this year. And I’m happy I didn’t. I did catch John Legend and Common’s performance. And I did see Lady Gaga and Julie Andrews.

But it’s hard to watch a show you just can’t really support anymore.

In recent years, I stopped watching fashion coverage. While I liked seeing what people wore- I do love fashion. The coverage was ridiculous- the 365 degree cameras, the mani cams, the inane discussion about what someone’s wearing rather than their thoughts on the movies nominated. (While I don’t like to speak ill of the dead, Joan Rivers’s influence on fashion coverage was not a positive influence. It’s become far too mean, and certainly unfavorable to anyone who doesn’t fit a specific body shape- they’re far too critical towards older women and heavier women.)

When I was a teenager, sure, they talked about fashion. But they spent more time asking about the actor’s performances if they were nominated or in a film that was nominated. Or their thoughts on nominees if they weren’t.

I cringed when nobody knew how to pronounce Quvenzhané Wallis’s name when she was nominated for Beasts of the Southern Wild (and apparently they cracked a joke about her in this years’ broadcast?). (Kwah-VEN-juh-nay) I admit, I stumble on Chiwetel Ejiofor’s name – but you can bet that if I was vlogging about him or interviewing him, I would practice it until I had it down pat. Because that’s part of covering entertainment, isn’t it? (My brain puts the w in Chiwetel’s name in a different syllable, for those wondering)

And those are just my gripes about Oscars coverage. It gets more and more obvious that the Academy is largely older, white men. Even as Hollywood strives for diversity, the Academy stays the same. White white white.

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Why I gave up on #100happydays and it’s okay.

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collage_20150216163539542_20150216163548403Last year, I attempted to do #100happydays. It’s a thing where you post a picture of something that made you happy once a day for 100 days. The idea is that by the end of the 100 days, you’ll be looking for the happy moments, rather than focusing on the negativity.

I stopped posting after 30 days or so last year. So I tried it again this year… and lost steam at about the same point, too.

But this year I realized why I’d stopped taking pictures. It wasn’t that I didn’t find things to be happy about. On the contrary, at the end of the day, I’m looking at the pile of good things more than the pile of bad.

It’s because I’m too busy enjoying these moments to take a picture.

It’s hard to stop playing Disney Infinity with the Little Kidlet to take a picture of him giggling. Or to stop a nice date night to snap a picture of TheBoy and I.

While I’m disappointed I fell behind, I can’t say that I’m disappointed in the reason why.

So tell me, have you tried 100 Happy Days?

#RunDisney registration! Surprisingly stressful.

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I am a veteran of comic cons. While I stopped going to San Diego Comic-Con, I remember registration days. I know how frustrating that is…

And yet, RunDisney registration days terrify me.

Mostly because these days, the races sell out quickly. Today’s registration day for the Disneyland Half Marathon Weekend, and I managed to get us signed up – but this was what it was like.

1. Load the Registration Page a half an hour early so that I can hit refresh right at 9am.
2. Have TheBoy’s last finish time handy, because they ask for proof of time for corral placement.
3. Have credit card handy.
4. Copy my password for Active.
5. Panic over what order to register the races.
6. Right at 9, sign up TheBoy for the half marathon.
7. Sign myself up for the 10k. (We’re at 9:05 now)
8. Sign up Oldest Kidlet for the 5k (9:08 now)
9. Sign up TheBoy for the 5k (9:10)
10. Wait for the email confirmations to come through, pour self a stiff drink (of water. Too early for anything else)

Granted, I realized as I got those email confirmations somehow it put in MY information for TheBoy (even though it has his name in one spot and mine in another), so now I’m already emailing Active about that – but we have a few months to get that straightened out.

For any of you running the Disneyland Half, did you get everything you needed?

Learning to take a compliment.

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I admit, I’m terrible about taking compliments. I think at our core, we’re all still who we were in high school.

And in high school I felt invisible. I was afraid to make a move on anyone I was interested in (after I tried once my freshman year, and he told me he thought of me like a kid sister – he was as kind as you can be in that situation), and watched them date girls who didn’t look as young as I did. Who had breasts. Who were tall. Who were white.

I wore a mask of confidence. Armor, technically. I cut my hair, wore clothes that were a little more fashion forward than you’d expect in the 90s and sort of did what I could to keep people at arm’s length.

I was only confident about my singing and acting.

I still feel a little weird when people compliment me in real life. On the internet, I can dismiss it and say that oh, I did look cute in that picture – but it’s because they can’t see how awkward and weird I am. In a snapshot, of course I look adorable.

But that isn’t healthy, and it isn’t accurate. My therapist called me out on it when we were discussing things and I kept trying to say that it wasn’t like I’m that attractive. At some point in time he stopped me. And asked if I really felt that way.

Black Widow, out!

Pretty cute, double-jointed fingers and all!

I said that I look in the mirror and see an attractive woman. I look at pictures I take and think I look nice. But a big part of it is that I question what others think because of high school. And because most people who tell me I’m pretty do so with an agenda.

So I’ve been working on trusting that not everyone who says I look good is out to wreck my life.

Today at the grocery store, I was talking with an employee that I see pretty regularly. She’s a motherly type. She’d never seen the Kidlets before, and she thought they were adorable- and so polite! She told them she thought they were cute, then glanced at me. “But not as cute as your mother.”

And I froze. Part of me wanted to shrug it off. But I knew my therapist would be annoyed and I wanted something good to tell him since I’d had to reschedule today’s appointment. So I thanked her, and told her I hoped she had a good, pain-free day (her arm was in a sling).

She didn’t think I was full of myself. She just smiled back and said she’d see me later in the week.

Pretty sure that the next time someone tells me out of the blue that they like my creative writing, I’m still going to wonder if they’re crazy. But, baby steps.

Tell me, do you find it hard to take a compliment?

#WomensLives, Revenge Porn and Closure

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pri-imageIf you follow me on social media, you probably saw me post using the hashtag #WomensLives this week. BlogHer and SheKnows have partnered with PRI for the #WomensLives news incubator. It’s a non-profit effort to make sure that stories are seen, because only 24% of news stories are about women, and only 6% of stories highlight gender in/equality. (Nobody is getting paid for this – not SheKnows, and not me. We’re all involved because it’s the right thing to do)

When I was asked if I was interested – I immediately said yes. Because anyone who spends more that an hour with me generally learns that I am very much invested in gender equality, and feminism. I’ll be sharing stories with you here and there. And the first story posted hit a little close to home. Congresswoman Jackie Speier is on a quest to criminalize revenge porn, which is just one of the issues that women face online. Including threats of rape for expressing opinions about inequality or being doxxed (having private information like addresses, phone numbers and social security numbers posted online) simply for being a woman in a male dominated field. I could rant about the misogynistic GG (not going to spell it out to keep those creeps from finding this blog) for ages.

But when I started to think about how women are treated online, and revenge porn – it made me think of the very unsettling turn my offline life took last summer. In September I blogged about Celebrity Photo Hacks, and what was going on in my life. Just after the Fourth of July, TheBoy (my husband) and I learned that about a decade ago a close and trusted friend of ours had stolen a tape containing about 10 minutes of intimate moments of ours. He’d taken it from our things while helping us move, copied it, and put the tape back. We only learned of the theft because someone the friend was disputing with had the tape and was going to contact us (which is why I refer to them as the Extortionist)- so the friend (the Thief) told us first.

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[Vlog] Whitney Watches: Agent Carter “The Blitzkrieg Button”

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After taking a week off for the State of the Union, Agent Carter is back! Which means, it’s time for another vlog! (Which yes, I did film, edit and upload late at night. TheBoy was fast asleep next to me while I edited.)

And let me tell you… this was a fantastic episode! I… eeee!!! It wrapped up one story line and opened the door for something so much bigger. And it tackled a lot of societal issues you don’t normally see in shows set post-WWII.

So it looks like next week’s episode sets up the next direction the show’s taking, and I’m excited. Are you?

I want to hear all about your thoughts. And if you’re curious what I did for my hair, I did some quick victory rolls and then pinned up the back – I was a teen in the mid 90s, and while I had short hair, I was in fact a Swing Kid.

If you like the vlog, subscribe to my channel on YouTube! And if you happen to know a graphic artist who can do a quirky, geeky logo for me, let me know!

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[Video] Whitney Wears: 1940s Makeup Tutorial – How to get Peggy Carter’s look!

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Finally! I ran into some setbacks (this was a new type of video for me, so lighting and setting it up was totally different), but here it is!

As promised, here’s the full list of makeup and tools that I used in the video.

L’oreal BB cream (as foundation), applied with bb Brush from H&M.
NYX waterproof concealer
Kat von D liquid eyeliner in black, fullsize (Mine was from a Sephora sampler.)
Ofra eyebrow pencil in “universal”
NYX eyebrow shaper.
NYX bronze smokey eye look kit (which I got through ipsy, but their natural and adorable palettes are good for all skin tones)
Urban Decay Perversion mascara in Black (I got that through ipsy)
NYX cream blush in Glow
Sephora retractable waterproof lip liner in “the red
Revlon Super Lustrous lipstick “Cherries in the Snow

Everything from the NYX line (except the palette that I noted) I found at either Target or CVS.

Next makeup tutorial – Angie Martinelli. It’s a similar look, but with peachier tones.

If you have ANY questions, or any makeup looks you want me to try to piece together, let me know!

Remember: Agent Carter is new this Tuesday! Make sure you watch it (live if you can) and tell your friends! And my recap will be up on Wednesday!

Oops!

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Sorry guys, if you’re seeing this post, it’s because you clicked through a link that’s dead.

The video that’s supposed to be here had to be taken down for a technical issue and I’m working on getting it back up.

Whitney Watches: Agent Carter 1.03 “Time and Tide”

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If it’s Wednesday, then it means it’s time for another edition of Whitney Watches!

As a reminder, these videos are meant for regular viewers of the series – since I talk about current character arcs and where the show might be headed. It isn’t a recap video!

So tell me, what are YOUR theories about what’s going to happen? Is mine all that crazy? Let me know in the comments, and if I get enough of them, I might just do a separate video since there isn’t a new episode next week.

If you aren’t following these accounts already, you probably should:

Hayley Atwell, Peggy Carter herself, posts a lot of BTS pictures.
Giovanna Melton is the costume designer for Agent Carter, and she shares patterns and pictures.
Lyndsy Fonseca, who plays Angie.
Chad Michael Murray, who plays SSR’s Thompson
and last but not least, Enver Gjokaj who plays Sousa.

Whitney Watches: Agent Carter 1.01 & 1.02

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It’s been far too long, but I’m back with another vlog – and it’s about Marvel’s Agent Carter – the 7 part television event (that’s a fancy name for mini-series) focusing on Peggy Carter. Last night’s two hour premiere was made up of two episodes, and the above video are my mostly coherent thoughts.

I promise that next week I’ll have it more together- the Whitney Watches videos aren’t recaps, they’re meant more to talk about characterization, possible arcs and all the fun references. But I was overwhelmed by the awesomeness.

If you missed last night’s episodes and didn’t DVR them, ABC will reair both on Saturday night.

The ratings for the premiere are on par for this time of year- but tell your friends, and lets send the message that this is the kind of entertainment we want.

What did you think? I want to hear it.