I know, it’s the new year and a time to reflect on what I want to get done this year. I set some goals last year, and while I’ve gotten better, I didn’t get them all accomplished.
In the spirit of getting things done, I figured I’d put this all out there.
1. Get organized. We occupy three rooms of this house (our room, the boys’ room and the common area upstairs) and share two other rooms (the living room and the upstairs bathroom) and try to fit everything that four people might need in there. When we moved in, I just sort of found places for things… but after nearly four years here, I need to get us organized and get rid of the stuff we don’t need. First priority is getting the boys’ stuff under control. I cut back on some of their toys, but when I wasn’t feeling well I just let things pile up.
2. Write daily. One of the best experiences for me was blogging daily during November. I let go of a lot of the anxiety that holds me back (more on that in a bit) and just wrote about what was on my mind. It was freeing in many ways, and I want to set a regular blogging schedule and a regular creative writing schedule.
3. Finish that novel. I’m finishing up a project that will never see the light of day (okay, I might post it on this blog), but after that, it’s full steam ahead on the novel. It needs to be written.
4. Get out more. I love the internet. It lets me keep in contact with friends within a nice safe little bubble. But I’m realizing that I can’t live in a bubble. It’s awfully lonely, so I’m trying to get out more and see my friends. I don’t talk much about this, but I have a lot of (undiagnosed, but still very real) anxiety issues. When faced with the unfamiliar, I tend to want to hide in my closet and never come out. I solve these problems by cooking and getting to hide in the kitchen when it comes to family gatherings, but it’s kept me from meeting up with people I worked at Disney with… or organizing a meetup with people I worked with in advertising. So I’m going to fight it this year.
5. Cook more. I got lazy in the latter part of the year. Cooking is one of my four interests (the others being writing, drawing and singing) that also works as therapy. Bad day? I can make a cheesecake and even if I don’t eat it, I feel better. So I resolve to cook more.
6. Take care of myself. I wound up in the hospital a month ago because I hadn’t noticed my health gradually declining last year. Here’s to paying attention, taking care of myself and kicking some ass. (By the way, I had a blood draw last week and my hemoglobin is up to a 10.9. Which, while a little below normal is much higher than the 6.2 I was admitted to the hospital with)
So there you have it, universe. This is what I plan on getting accomplished.
Yesterday’s post about the women I ran into in the bathroom seemed to have struck a nerve with some guys who assert that nice girls don’t exist. Which is odd. I meet lovely single women all the time on the internet. Granted, I haven’t dated them, but none of them are gold diggers. (Okay, I’ve met a couple of those, but it was fairly obvious that’s what they were right away… even while putting on their best Twitter face) I suppose my follow up point is that if you aren’t meeting the kind of girls you want at your favorite bar or club, then you need to look elsewhere. A lot of nice girls these days just don’t want to pull out a push-up bra and a skimpy LBD and head to a bar or club.
Join online communities that revolve around your hobbies, go to meet-ups from those communities. Just going by the people I’ve met that have fallen in love by meeting at conventions or meetups, it seems like if you’re going to an event that seems more geared towards making new friends… you’re more likely to actually fall for someone. Without that pressure of trying to put on your best date-face, you usually wind up being more you and less worried about impressing people. Just a thought.
(By the way, the League of Extraordinary Ladies aka LxL hosted a singles mixer in LA last year and lots of meet ups in various cities. If you are of the geek persuasion, there you go.)