What Supporting Something Means… and what it doesn’t!

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I’ve been trying to find the words about this subject…

I’ve found people who say that what Chick-Fil-A did wasn’t anti-gay. Seen others saying that they’ll stand by Chick-Fil-A but that doesn’t mean they hate gays. I’ve seen some people from those groups say that it isn’t fair that people are protesting against Chick-Fil-A (while they personally said they would never buy Oreos after they had their rainbow ad). Some of the logic is mindbendingly bizarre.

So here are the facts. Chick-Fil-A has donated millions towards anti-gay groups (including one that spent money to keep the US from condemming Uganda’s bill that would put gay people to death). Now, we aren’t just talking about groups fighting to protect the traditional definition of marriage. They donated groups that think you can cure homosexuality. That is anti-gay. Ultimately, it’s your responsibility to know what charities and organizations are about before you give them money. And to understand that supporting them means that you are endorsing everything they support, especially if you’re “standing up” for them. If you don’t- it’s just chicken. There are plenty of other places you can go to that don’t fund groups like that.

Think I’m being silly? I don’t donate money to PETA because their ultimate agenda is to eliminate pets. Not making that one up. I don’t donate money to HSUS or the National ASPCA because most of their money goes to lobbying, not to saving all those animals they say your money goes to. It doesn’t take long to find out what an organization does and where their money goes.

Boycotts are not blackmail, they’re used to shine a light so that the community can see what’s going on. Anyone can hold them. I admit, I rolled my eyes when people said they were going to boycott Oreos because of the rainbow Oreo ad. But I didn’t dissuade them, because boycotts are their right. And heck, if anyone infers that I support gays because I buy Oreos, well, that would be the truth. I’m proud of that.

I believe in love. I believe in equality. But most of all, I firmly believe that more people need to understand that the fight over gay marriage has nothing to do with religion.

If gay marriage is made legal, churches don’t have to perform them. Currently anyone who is in a male/female relationship can get married. This is recognized by the government, and they get benefits from doing it (property rights, and legal rights). But not all those marriages are recognized by all churches in the US. The Catholic Church doesn’t recognize divorces, or any marriage after the first marriage. Why? That’s their decision. It wouldn’t be any different when it came to same sex marriages… churches wouldn’t be forced to recognize them. And don’t suggest a “civil union.” This is about getting equal rights without having a separate title. Separate, not equal. Ring a bell? There is literally no difference between the fight for civil rights, for women’s equality or gay rights. It’s all about recognizing that people are people, and deserve the same rights.

I suppose the real point I’m making is that if you plan to stand up for something- you have to be prepared to take the heat. You can’t whine and complain that it’s unfair that people are upset at you for doing so, or try to explain why proudly supporting a business that supports groups that are anti-gay somehow means you aren’t anti-gay yourself. You can’t try to use religion as a shield, when simultaneously trying imply that other religions are lesser than yours. It does not work that way. If you have freedom of religion, that means others do too. If you have freedom of speech, so do they.

So maybe, Eat Less Chik’n, and Love More People.

  • shalay

    Perfectly said.