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Biphobia and some really shitty timing.

I’m out. I’m bi. I am fortunate enough to be in a position where I can be more or less out in all of my life. My family, my close friends all know. I work for a company where that doesn’t matter, and so things are good. But growing up, I knew I liked boys

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Trauma. Recovery is A Never-Ending Fight.

Note: If you’re one of the parties mentioned in this ongoing drama, just stop reading my site. This post is about my recovery, and I share it in the hopes that it might help someone dealing with Trauma feel like they aren’t broken. Or help loved ones understand what someone is going through. I’ll be

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I’m Tired.

This is a big weekend. Lots of people remembering 9/11 with a solemnity and fervor that I simply can’t muster any more. I won’t ever forget it, but I can’t dwell on it. The lessons that we as a nation have taken from it weren’t the right ones. Instead of coming together, recognizing extremism (which

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Allies: Don’t Pretend to Come Out.

Over the weekend, Tyler Posey posted a video to his Snapchat. He was at Gay St and said, very happily. “That’s me. I’m gay!” People waited for confirmation that he was in fact, coming out, and in the end – they got an apology from Posey. Because he was attempting to make a statement of

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The problem with Ilvermorny (as world building)

You easily find a lot of posts discussing JK Rowling’s latest expansion into the Harry Potter universe – Ilvermorny, the North American Wizarding School. Most centering on the cultural appropriation that the school is built on. (And from better sources than me) But here’s the cliffnotes version – it’s a British Colonialist’s dream – Young

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Every time. Why there’s no need for heterosexual pride or white pride

On the internet, trending today, I saw something about white history month and “Heterosexual Pride Day”. Any time there’s a marginalized group celebrating themselves, out come white or straight people to wonder where the day is that they get to celebrate themselves. I’m going to be blunt. That’s every day. You can turn on a

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When do we say that enough is enough?

My heart hurts. I don’t say this because it’s what is being said… I say this because those people who died in that club in Orlando? Those are my people. (I didn’t know them, but those were still my people – both LGBT and Latinx) There were nearly two more attacks on Pride events this

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The Ancient One is… Celtic?

Marvel, seemingly responding to critics about casting Tilda Swinton as the Ancient One, released the background for the character. Saying that this embodiment is Celtic. Well here’s the statement: Marvel has a very strong record of diversity in its casting of films and regularly departs from stereotypes and source material to bring its MCU to

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Prince and Me.

Much like David Bowie’s death, Prince’s sudden death threw me for a loop. He meant so much to me. While I don’t have a first hand story about Prince, I do have second hand stories about him (which I can’t really share). The one common thread in those stories is that despite his eccentricities, he

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