[VIDEO] Whitney Watches: Teen Wolf 5.03 “Dreamcatchers”


tw blog 503 thumbnailThis video covers episode three of this season – “Dreamcatchers”

So if you’re a fan, who has watched the episodes – this series is my critical look at what’s going on. Granted, this episode is mostly recap, but it’s hard to really guess much about a season or talk about character arcs when you only have two episodes to base it on.

Your thoughts on last night’s episode? I didn’t say it in the video, but I’m really sad about how the ep ended. That character was cool.

As I said last week, I’m trying to wear a Teen Wolf related episode – this week, it’s Forever 21’s Superman jacket. Which Kira wore last season. It’s not in stores, but I found mine on Vinted.

[VIDEO] Whitney Watches: Teen Wolf: 5.01 & 5.02


tw vlog 501 502 blogTeen Wolf is back, with its fifth season – so I thought it was time I gave it the Whitney Watches treatment. This video covers the two part premiere- “Creatures of the Night” and “Parasomnia”

So if you’re a fan, who’s watched the episodes – this series is my critical look at what’s going on. Granted, this episode is mostly recap, but it’s hard to really guess much about a season or talk about character arcs when you only have two episodes to base it on.

Thoughts? I’d love to hear where you think this season’s going! Just leave me a comment.

These videos will be posted each week, sometime during the day after the episode airs!

I’m going to try to wear an episode linked to Teen Wolf somehow. This dress I’m wearing is a dress that Lydia Martin wore last season – it’s H&M’s crinkle floral dress. (While you can’t get it in stores, you can usually find it on resale sites like eBay or Poshmark)

#MarriageEquality : Love Wins.


pride-whitney I should be working. But to be honest, I’ve been distracted all day long.

Today the Supreme Court ruled that same-sex marriage is legal. And that all 50 states will recognize it.

I want to say upfront that I would have fought for marriage equality regardless of my own sexuality. But I think that my sexuality puts me in an interesting spot. I’m bisexual. I’ve known this all my life- though it wasn’t until college I really knew how to describe it (literally everyone suggested gay or straight as my two options). So I was mostly confused, because I have always been attracted to more than just guys.

When I was 18, I met TheBoy. And the first summer we were dating, I knew he was The One. (We were making biscuits in my summer apartment for school) It took some time for us to get married, but here we are. It’ll be eleven years this summer.

We’ve built a life together. And every step of the way, I’ve known what kind of barriers I would have faced if I’d fallen in love with a woman instead. Especially now that I have a serious health condition. He can make decisions if I’m unable to, when we’ve seen hospitals disregard same-sex partners- even if they had all the legal paperwork. There are protections for that now.

So I can smile, and enjoy today, knowing that same-sex couples will have the same legal rights that I do.

Isn’t it amazing to realize that while there are so many problems our children will face, that whether or not they can get married isn’t going to be one of them?


[Video] Being Brave/Being Honest


Last week, I was in the middle of recording a video (talking about the way women are treated on television) and I broke down. I broke down, I thought about why… and then I recorded this video.

Thank you. To all of those who helped me through this last year. Thank you.

If you want more of a frame of reference, I’ve blogged a bit about the tape.

Stolen Pictures and the Thing I’m Finally Talking About

#WomensLives, Revenge Porn and Closure

[VIDEO] Easy Milkmaid Braids!


MilkMaidBraidsYou might have noticed that I’ve been wearing my hair up in milkmaid braids a lot.  I admit, that one of the things I love about Game of Thrones has been the elaborate hairstyles – especially Cersei’s elaborate braids.  And on Teen Wolf, Lydia Martin wears her hair braided in about four different and amazing ways.

Most of these styles are out of the question because my hair just isn’t long enough.  But now that my hair is down to my collarbone, I’ve realized I can do this extremely simple hairstyle.

And trust me – I have a hard time french braiding my own hair.  So when I say it’s simple… it’s simple.

What’s your favorite way to get your hair up and out of your face?

Bob’s Burgers: Every Breath You Tikka Masala Burger


tikkamasalaburgerWe’ve been watching a lot of Bob’s Burgers lately, and one of the things I love are the names of the Burgers of the Day. Punny, funny, and they hint at flavor combinations that I’d love to try.

In one episode, Bob threw out the name of a burger (Yes, the Every Breath You Tikka Masala Burger) and never described what else was there other than being topped by Tikka Masala sauce. But I was intrigued. I can make Tikka Masala sauce (or something close, since I don’t have cows’ milk products often). Why couldn’t I just make this burger on my own?

So I thought about it. It would be a reduced Tikka Masala sauce – just the onion, and I wouldn’t puree it like I sometimes do. So it’d be chunky with onions. I couldn’t put it on a beef patty – that just seemed offensive, so I opted for a meat I’d recently had with Tikka Masala… lamb.

You can find most of these spices in your local grocery store. Cardamom pods will probably be the hardest thing to find, but I found them at World Market.

All you’re going to need is a stainless/non-reactive saucepan, a grill (whether it’s a pan or something with flames is up to you), and maybe a pair of gloves for mixing the meat.


[Vlog] March & April Ipsy Bag


It’s been a crazy couple of months. So much so that I actually didn’t get to open my ipsy bags until now. So… unboxing video!

Ipsy is a monthly subscription service, like Birchbox. Only it’s $10/month. While you might not get as high end items as you would with some of the competitors, I love the bags that come with each month and really haven’t had any complaints about what’s come in them. (If you want to try it out, click here – it’s my referral link)

March’s Ipsy Bag – Floral Fantasy

The bag – it’s vinyl, like most… but with flowers.

NYX Butter Lipstick in Pops – Available in drugstores and at nyxcosmetics.com – $6.00

I love NYX’s Butter Lipsticks, they go on smooth (though definitely exfoliate your lips first) and they smell sweet. Pops is a shade that’s pretty close to my natural lip color, just a little more pink.

Equitance Brightening Serum & Spot Corrector – Available at equitance-us.com (Full size $125, trial size given)

pur~lisse Gentle Soymilk Cleanser – Available at purlisse.com (Full size $36)

pixi by Petra Mineral Duo in Apricot Glowpixibeauty.com – While this duo was made just for ipsy, for $12 you can get a palette.

LOVE this one. The two shades are warm, natural – perfect for an every day look. It lasts well and blends nicely.

My only complaint is that I get a lot of neutral eye shadow palettes from ipsy, which are useable – but I have a lot of neutral stuff. I want something fun and crazy now and then.

Evelyn Iona Concealer in Flawlessevelyniona.com – $18.75 for the full size

The coverage was nice, though the packaging left me a little confused. Nowhere on it did it say what it was or what shade it was. Silky, feels great. It’s vegetarian (but has beeswax, so not vegan), 88% organic, cruelty-free.

Verdict on this bag – Nice! Downvoted skincare products on my quiz, though. I’ve found some skincare products I really like, so I’d rather have makeup and hair products to play with. The lipstick is in my cosplay kit, and the eyeshadow is part of my regular rotation. I’m probably going to pass along the corrector and put the cleaner in my go bag. (I keep a bag packed w/ basic toiletries and makeup and ready in case of last minute trips or hospital trips)

April’s Ipsy Bag – Beautifully Bohemian.

The bag: It’s woven and multicolor! VERY fun.

Crown Brush Concealer Brushcrownbrush.us – retail $7.45

It’s a nice brush for the price point, and yay for getting a concealer brush right after I got a pot of concealer!

Elizabeth Arden Beautiful Color Lipstick in Red Door Red – available elizabetharden.com – fullsize, $25 (!!)

Gorgeous classic red, wears beautifully. LOVE it.

JulieG Matte TopcoatJessesgirlcosmetics.com – $3.99

I haven’t tried this yet, but I look forward to using it for some fun effects.

TheBalm Nude Dude Eyeshadow in Flirtythebalm.com – we were given one shade, the palette of all 12 is $36.

Fun neutral shade. Though it’s essentially a color I’ve been given before.

Mullein & Sparrow Lip and Cheek Balmmulleinandsparrow.com $22

Haven’t gotten to try this yet. But it’s vegan, the color looks lovely in the tin- I can’t wait to try it out.

Verdict on this bag – Nice! The lipstick alone is worth more than I paid, as is the lip and cheek balm. The fun thing about this is that you have everything for a complete look, minus some eyeliner and mascara. And this is probably my third favorite bag I’ve ever received. The top being the first bag I ever got, which was a Rebecca Minkoff design, followed by the pewter colored back with silver studs, and now this! Love them.

Now, the tarte items you can get at tarte.com. The Golden Days & Sultry Nights Shadow Palette and the Be-Charmed Eyelash Curler

So tell me, my lovelies… I promise the next vlog will be about something other than makeup- but is there anything you want me to talk about for cosplaying?

[Vlog] Whitney Wears: 5 Minute Makeup


The vlog is back!

I’ve been asked how I can cram in time for makeup with kids. And honestly, there are a lot of mornings I don’t – but this is my 5 minute routine for when I want to look pulled together.

So what’s the secret? Figure out what you want to focus on, and include that in your on the go routine. Don’t want to use mascara, but you’d rather have lipstick? Swap it out!

If you have any questions or suggestions for future videos, let me know!

Products used in this video:

Pacifica Ultra CC Cream Radiant Foundation in Natural/Medium (you can also find it at Target with the other natural beauty products) – $18, but a little goes a LONG ways

NYX Waterproof Concealer Stick in Medium (you can also find it at drug stores and Target) – $4.99

Sephora Colorful Blush in Healthy Rose 09 – $15.00

Kat VonD Tattoo Eyeliner in Trooper – $15

Tarte Lights, Camera, Lashes 4 in 1 Mascara – $10 for the mini size, which is honestly all you’d need for how long you’re supposed to keep mascara.

Whitney, thy name is Insecurity


(I swear, I spent 5 minutes debating which way it goes. Is it Insecurity, thy name is Whitney? I don’t even know anymore)

thynameisinsecurityMy brain is an exhausting space. Despite the fact that my therapist said I’m over my trauma and don’t need to go to therapy on a biweekly schedule… there’s a lot of little stuff that piles up and makes my head a messy place.

This is one of those weirdly personal posts, guys. So, if you were hoping for the latest on geeky stuff, go away and come back on Monday.

I’ve had a couple of really great weeks (about some awesome things that I’m writing posts about, I promise), but I’m at the tailend of a couple of rough weeks now. Things are great overall, but when little things stop going your way, they pile up and it feels like things are working against you.

An example? I could share the drama of a bike shop that was never open when I wanted it to be, but that isn’t really the story I want to share. I could talk about how frustrating it is to watch older relatives age… but this isn’t really the time nor place for that.

In the last couple weeks I’ve had a couple friends suddenly get quiet with me. Ignoring texts or responding in a way that made it clear I was intruding. Short answers, terse tone. And I’ve been agonizing about figuring out what happened. I admit, I’ve always had a hard time maintaining longer distance friendships. I lose track of time, and suddenly it’s been months since I’ve talked with someone.

Only now, basically all of my friends are long distance. I have friends scattered across the US and now New Zealand and Germany. And a sister in Japan. So I send off messages into the ether of the internet, and hope I get responses. Reminding myself that people are in different time zones.

I just don’t know what to do when I don’t hear back from someone, but can see that they’re online and talking to others. I try not to assume that it’s me, especially when I can’t think of anything I’ve done that was offensive. But inevitably, I fail as the days go on, and assume that the problem is me. I begin pouring over every comment/text/email I’ve sent, every other interaction to see if I can’t figure out what’s wrong with me. Was I too excited about the good stuff going on in my life? Have I befriended someone they don’t like? Did they think I was brushing them off when I just had to pick up my kids?

Rehashing everything isn’t healthy. It just made me a neurotic and distracted mess.

So, I’m trying to accept that there isn’t anything wrong with me, no matter what my brain keeps trying to tell me. In the last year I’ve made a lot of new friends online- and this past month I actually got out of my comfort zone and met people in person, talked, and came away with some new friends! I’m me, and I’m trying to be a good friend. If I’m failing to be what a couple people need, I’m not a mindreader and can’t spend all my week agonizing about trying to please someone who won’t tell me what they need from me.

Because there are a lot of people who do depend on me. The kidlets, my husband. And me, most importantly. I depend on me. And a scattered and distraught Whitney is never going to be a good thing.

Also- to those who’ve been there for me, thank you. It means so much that you listen to me whine and keep me from losing my perspective on things. (And if you’re a friend reading this and didn’t know what was going on, odds are I just figured you had a lot on your plate already. Or you missed the Tumblr post)

Am I alone in driving myself crazy like this? Do you overthink things, too? We should form a support group.

The problem with slut jokes


problem with slut jokes You might have seen that Chris Evans and Jeremy Renner during a press junket responded to a question about Black Widow’s romantic interests in Age of Ultron (not saying who, SPOILERS, but it was brought up to them because in prior films it seemed like her interests were aimed at Captain America and Hawkeye) and both men joked that she’s a slut, a whore, and she has a fake leg (which painted people with prosthetics as being something unattractive).

And people on the internet immediately said that wasn’t cool.

So why do people care? Black Widow’s just a fictional character, right?

Because men (and women) say this to women all the time. Women are sluts or whores for having had previous sexual relationships, while men neatly avoid name calling. And women get labeled sluts and whores especially when we’ve passed a guy over for someone else. (And any other number of names).

It matters because this is the narrative of OUR lives, and when someone in a very public sphere makes a comment like that – it reinforces to people out there, that demeaning women for making decisions about who they sleep with is something that’s okay. And it’s not.

It’s also a big deal because right now the Marvel Cinematic Universe is one of the biggest deals out there in movies, and the Avengers are the top tier of the MCU. No matter how you feel about celebrity status – these actors are people who are looked up to by children and adults alike. So it’s a brutal reminder that the 24 hour cycle has killed any idea that movie stars are anything but normal people.

So what happened? Chris Evans apologized, Jeremy Renner just seemed annoyed that people were upset and wanted them to go away. No, really. From EW:

“Yesterday we were asked about the rumors that Black Widow wanted to be in a relationship with both Hawkeye and Captain America,” Evans said in a statement provided to EW. “We answered in a very juvenile and offensive way that rightfully angered some fans. I regret it and sincerely apologize.”

“I am sorry that this tasteless joke about a fictional character offended anyone,” Renner also said in a statement provided to EW. “It was not meant to be serious in any way. Just poking fun during an exhausting and tedious press tour.”

At least Chris gives us hope that there are real people out there, who aren’t afraid to listen when someone calls them out on something, and re-evaluate what they did.